Meet James and discover that for every horror story, there are 5 Western Thai love stories
Tuesday 11th December 2018 5:24pm
A great 2014 tourism video promoting Thailand is a good place to begin understanding and believing that all Thai women do not belong in the crime section of tabloid newspapers or that all foreigners end up with Thai gold diggers.
These stories do happen in real life but for at least very 1 bad story there are 5 others of Thai women and western men who have not only found love but a relationship of trust, happiness and harmony. It is not easy as there are bad Thai women out there and cultural pitfalls but in today's Thai world, we are in need of more positive stories. That's why we recommend you look at this vide which, like many things in Thailand is ironic and paradoxical. It's called: 'I hate Thailand.' You'll love it!
A great 2014 tourism video promoting Thailand is a good place to begin understanding and believing that all Thai women do not belong in the crime section of tabloid newspapers or that all foreigners end up with Thai gold diggers. These stories do happen in real life but for at least very 1 bad story there are 5 others of Thai women and western men who have not only found love but a relationship of trust, happiness and harmony. It is not easy as there are bad Thai women out there and cultural pitfalls but in today's Thai world, we are in need of more positive stories. That's why we recommend you look at this video which, like many things in Thailand is ironic and paradoxical. It's called: 'I hate Thailand.' You'll love it!
There is a knack required by foreigners seeking love in Thailand who wish to find the right Thai woman and develop a healthy loving relationship. It is surely a mental matter of balance. The Thai news media and western tabloids are filled each month with lurid and negative stories of foreigners whose relationships with Thai woman have not worked and often the results are literally lethal. Even on ThaiLovelines, we report on the murders, suicides and pathetic plights of foreigners who have come to Thailand, full of hope and goodwill and have had their lives destroyed by the wrong Thai woman or simply the wrong attitude towards a life bridging two quite different cultures.
For media and newspapers, bad news about Thai women marrying foreigners sells
Yes, but why continue you might say? Why do tens of thousands of Thai women and foreign men continue to marry every few months. The answer is that these relationships work at least 87% of the time and perhaps more. That figure is based on current amalgam of statistics for Thai men married to Thai women, worldwide. The figures come from such studies as a thesis study and report in conjunction with Thai National Development Institute, research from the UK, Switzerland, Denmark and Stockholm University in Sweden. The divorce rate overall was 12.5% but as low as 6% for the German study.
Positive benefits of Thai women marrying western foreigners is a story told
When these relationships don't work, it can be painful for both Thai women and the foreign men involved. When they do work, the benefits and the good that these relationships bring to the world is a story that is not fully told or appreciated . From Thai families whose links with a western men have been transformed their ambitions and understanding of life to western families who have learned the joy of Thai culture and traditions. From lonely western men who have rediscovered life and the joy of true family life to divorced Thai woman, cast aside within the country's conservative, patriarchal society who have become not only women who are loved gain but also women who are admired both in Thailand and in the countries where to go to work. However, you will more often here the negative stories because for media and newspapers bad news sells faster. Another key reason is, unfortunately, political correctness. The stereotype portrait of Thai women is politically incorrect unfortunately as is the treatment of Thailand overall by the western press.
Western academics all find relationships between foreigners to be largely modern and successful with some some vulnerable cases
Study after study carried out by authorities and academia in western countries have been called by groups who oppose interracial marriage between Thai women and foreign women on grounds citing the 'unequal' nature of the relationship. The key findings of all reports show that these relationships do not fit the negative stereotype of Thai bar girl and western foreigner looking for a sex slave. For a start, Thailand is changing. For all Thailand's problems that still exist, many Thai women today have independent means and higher levels of education. It is an up and coming country and a country that controls its own destiny and protects its unique culture. The poverty rate, still high by western standards, has been reduced from 44% in 1988 to approximately 7% today. The real stories that are never told and that account for 87% of all Thai foreigner relationships and marriages are stories of success against all the odds and often quite inspirational. The other 17% are where you have partners to the relationship who have bought into the false stereotype or where there is a chronic language and inability by the Thai women to integrate.
Thai dating site wants its users to read about the dangers of cross cultural relationships
Do we ask our users on ThaiLoveLines, Thailand international dating site, not to read the tragic and sometimes depressing stories of murder, jealousy and ill will. No, it is important that they do so. It is very important to realize the dangers in a cross cultural relationship and not to make light of it. It is very important to understand Thailand and Thai people and to know that, like all countries and societies, there are good and bad people, good and bad families, good and bad Thai women. We must caution our users to always be wary of the dangers but we must also caution them to believe that it can work and does work.
Video about Thailand that has a message for foreigners and western men
This story features a very instructive video about Thailand. It is not a true story, in fact it's an advertisement. It's the kind of advertisement that has become very popular in Thailand and we have begun to use it to tell our users about Thailand, Thai people, Thai culture and the deeper meaning and value of that culture. Thai women reflect that culture and the best that Thai women have to offer has nothing to do with sex appeal or the stereotypical nonsense peddled by the western tabloid press bu the deep value of love that is at the heart of Thai culture and Thai society. In the same way many Thai women, the better ones, come to learn that not all western men are millionaires. Money is important in any relationship and indispensable to marriage but what western men offer Thai women are the positive values of western culture which also centres, deep down on love. There are differences, western people tend to strive more while Thai people are more accepting of fate.
Thai Tourism authority video shows Thai culture at its finest
The video we refer to is a 2014 video production developed by the Thai Tourism Authority. Thailand's tourist marketing people are highly skilled at promoting Thailand. The country now as a $80 billion tourist industry and is perhaps among the most visited countries in the world. Bangkok is in fact the world's' most visited county (if you dismiss Chinese visitors to Hong Kong). This tourist video is five minutes long and features a young man from the United Kingdom. It also explains the growth in the number of 25 to 40 years western men finding long term relationships and love in Thailand. It is not just because Thai women are beautiful, and they are but because of the unique culture and personal attributes of these women.
To be successful seeking a strong Thai marriage partner - you need to be aware of the pitfalls but you also must have confidence
We must also be clear that we are aware of the warnings and negative commentary online about 'money grabbers' and 'gold diggers', such stories are often based on true events and perhaps you will believe us when we suggest that these stories come from the 13% of relationships that do not work out. These are the stories that make all the news and we may also suggest and warn that is quite easy for a good man with good intentions to be among those. Good western men meet the wrong Thai women, it happens and can easily happen. That is why ThaiLovelines advises its users to read our articles and to allow for more time before forming a relationship of trust. Yes, there are people who find the perfect partner in a matter of days. There is also luck involved. At the same time, the person who is well informed and advised has a far superior chance of meeting a superior Thai woman. Someone with honour and personal integrity, such things are possible even for those with the most limited means.
A clever reverse psychology tourism video for Thailand gives some understanding of the warmth and deep generosity that exists in Thailand. 87% of Western Thai relationships are a success and the numbers are growing. Yet too often in the tabloid press, we